What does neglect feel like?

Raise your hand if you enjoy feeling neglect. What? No hands? Now, raise your hand if you avoid feeling neglect. Ooh, I see a few hands now, mine included.

Neglect is a good disguise artist. It might look like people-pleasing, numbness, or even over-achievement. When I feel this emotion, I often feel unseen, which can lead to craving emotional nourishment. Sometimes it causes me to dim my light so that I can (in my mind) go unnoticed. Other times, it’s like an invisible roommate. You know, when someone is physically present but emotionally on vacation.