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Let’s explore the power of opposites. Chaos and calm, noise and peace, anger and joy, hungry and full, sad and happy, …peace and opportunity. Sure, we all strive for happiness, joy, peace, wealth, and grace in our lives. We all want more of that, right? How do you know, though, that you want more joy if you’ve never experienced anger? Can you really know what it means to feel happy if you’ve never experienced sadness? If you never knew what it was like to feel hungry, how can you appreciate what it means to feel well-fed? What’s up with these opposites?
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Do you feel rattled?
You’re working feverishly to meet a deadline and suddenly receive some unexpected news that rattles you to your core. The pounding heart in your chest, sweaty hands, and shallow breathing leave you feeling rattled. Be careful where you step! The head of the pin you’re standing on barely has enough room for both feet, and you can feel it teetering beneath you.
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What makes your soul dance? Have you ever watched a movie that reached into the depths of your soul to a point of tears, and you let the tears flow without reservation? When our souls move and we feel; these are wonderfully deep and authentic emotions. What is it about connecting with our soul so deeply that it makes us spontaneously feel?
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Do you feel shame?
Emotions can be teachers for us to stay true to who we are or who we want to be. Think for a moment about the last time you felt shame. Where does that feeling come from? Did you think or believe that if you hid, your shame would disappear and no one would notice? Maybe you felt like you were flawed.
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Where’s Mom and Dad when I want them? And why can’t they give me what I’m looking for? When I was in the throes of trauma recovery, I had an image in my mind about the support I was looking for from my parents. (Note: I was a teenager.) It seemed when I opened doors for them to step through (on my terms), one of them invariably slammed the door smack dab in my face. Ouch!
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Do you feel troubled?
Have you ever felt restless for seemingly no reason at all? This could be a sign that you feel more troubled about something than you realize. Sneaky little feeling, troubled. This little feeling (or not so small feeling) can be full of little gifts for us if we can give ourselves a moment to explore more about it.
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Mood swings and trauma recovery are a real thing. Sometimes the world seems as right as rain. Then there are those times when our internal world struggles to make a smile come out. Kind, supportive thoughts seem elusive. This is a natural momentum. Emotions feel like they are swinging up and down. Have you ever experienced that?
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I’m feeling uncertain about this (or that). Is that a good thing or a bad thing? Whether we perceive it as positive or negative, uncertainty could be a generous gift. I’m exploring negative emotions right now, so I’m diving into this one from that perspective.
We are each unique in our approach to life and the subtle (or not-so-subtle) nuances of emotions that color our lives. You might feel comfortable with a higher volume of uncertainty in your life than others. I don’t mind some uncertainty, especially when trying out new things and seeing how they influence everything else. Raise the stakes though, and the uncertainty becomes overwhelming, with a generous helping of fear on the side. Case and point: writing a memoir and publishing it. (Eeegadz, did I just do that?) That was scary with a capital S. There’s some uncertainty!
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Finding Support When Parents Can’t Give What You Need
Where’s mom and dad? Have you ever noticed how deeply we long for understanding from the people who brought us into the world? Lately I have been reflecting on those tender teenage years when I craved specific support during my trauma recovery. Instead of receiving the open arms I imagined, doors often slammed shut on my terms.
The hurt cut sharply at first. Moreover, betrayal and misunderstanding swirled in my young heart like a storm. When I opened space for my parents to step through, disappointment met me repeatedly. I wanted to believe the ideal support waited just around the corner.
I simply hoped.
This pattern repeated more times than I wished to count. Furthermore, it left me questioning why the very people closest to me seemed unable to offer what I needed most.
Healing Parental Disappointment with Grace
Yet finding support when parents can’t give what you need opened an entirely new path for me. For instance, someone gently suggested that my parents might not be in a place to provide what I expected. Consequently, I began expanding my circle beyond family. Have you felt that same ache when family members fall short of your hopes?
- Healing when parents disappoint fosters emotional freedom and self-compassion while releasing unrealistic expectations in family dynamics.
- Finding support beyond family builds stronger resilience and healthier relationships through chosen connections and community.
- Grace after parental disappointment promotes acceptance and peace by honoring each person’s unique growth journey.
- Emotional healing from family wounds enhances well-being and deepens self-love by seeking nurturing from aligned supporters.
These realizations felt revolutionary and life-saving. So, where’s mom and dad?
However, shifting perspective required gentle courage. Therefore, I started looking outward with an open heart. Additionally, I discovered kind souls who could walk beside me exactly as I needed. Transitioning into this new understanding happened gradually yet powerfully. One conversation at a time, my inner storm began to calm.
Moreover, I learned that everyone travels their own path of growth. Sometimes family members simply cannot meet us where we stand. Other times their own wounds limit what they can offer. Either way, I found freedom in releasing the demand.
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Furthermore, this new approach allowed grace to flow into my existing family ties. When I stopped expecting one source to fulfill everything, acceptance bloomed naturally. Have you noticed how releasing rigid expectations creates space for love to breathe? I certainly have, and it transformed my connection with my parents.
Besides the immediate relief, deeper ripples emerged too. For example, I could now appreciate my family without resentment clouding the view. Likewise, I built meaningful bonds with mentors and friends who offered genuine support. Consequently, my world felt richer and more balanced.
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Additionally, sharing this insight with others multiplies its healing power. Whether whispered during a quiet talk or reflected upon in solitude, the message spreads hope. Transition words now flow through my thoughts just as acceptance carries me forward with lightness.
Ultimately, finding support when parents can’t give what you need invites profound freedom. Feel the relief as you open to new sources of care. Your heart, relationships, and spirit will respond with greater peace and quiet strength. Ask yourself, where’s mom and dad?
So breathe into that longing today. Look gently beyond old expectations. Moreover, notice how wonderful it feels to receive exactly what your soul has been seeking. After all, this healing belongs to you, one graceful step at a time.
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Family dynamics get interesting under any condition. When trauma happens, either within a family or to someone in the family, things can change how a family relates to itself. I’m sharing these thoughts from my perspective and the impact being raped had on my family. I can’t possibly talk about everything in the few hundred words that will make up this blog post, but here are some highlights.
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Let’s talk about relationship dynamics when it’s hard to trust. This applies to friends and family for sure, but I’m drawing this point more narrowly to spouse or partner relationships.
You find your ‘one.’ You tie the knot. In the beginning, it feels like you have every reason to trust that you’re going to be respected. You trust the other person to hold you dear in your most vulnerable moments. Then something happens and that ‘all-in’ trust comes into question. Maybe your definition of what it means to trust someone differs from the other person’s idea of trust. Whatever the cause and wherever you are in your trust-o-meter, trust between you and your ‘one true love’ changes and you question your choices.
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Life Gifts
- Sending you warmth and caring.
- I send you good thoughts for successful surgery, for doctors and nurses to care for you with love and honor, and for healing comfort.
- I send you patience to allow new things to unfold positively for your life.
- I send you healing, detoxifying energy as your body benefits and heals from your weekend massage.
- I send you showers of strength as you walk your journey.
- I send you fresh, crisp apple bites of life to bite into everyday.
- I send you a warm hand to hold as you experience the array of feelings that go along with the death of your loved one.
- Sending you friendship to warm your heart and knowledge that you’re loved.
- I send you inspiration to put thoughts on paper.
- I send you a warm, relaxing breeze, a comfortable hammock with sounds of water lapping on the shore.
- I send you honor and respect as you navigate this wave in your life.
- I send you fresh, fragrant flowers with lots of different colors to brighten your corner of the world.
- I send you contagious child-like giggles and unstoppable smiles.
- I send you showers of grace and peace.
- Sending you oodles of energy noodles.
- Sending you a perfect worry doll to manage your worries.
- I send you chortles, giggles and warm hugs.
- Sending you bursts of energy and focus.
- Sending you flashlights for exploring your dark places.
- I send you whimsical moments that make you giggle out loud, whether or not you’re around people.
- Sending you joy and glee in celebration of your accomplishment.
- I send you the deep, rich colors of berries to paint your soul.
- Sending you bright colored paint for your life canvas.
- I send you light energy to charge your healthy cells and create health.
- I send you pregnant pauses to remember how much you are loved and cared for.
- I send you focus and energy as you write today.
- I send you peaces to resolve the conflicts you’re experiencing right now.
- I send you warm, comfortable rest.
- I send you relaxing moments filled with love and caring.
- I send you light to illuminate the places inside you that seem dark.
- Sending you pillows of prosperity to share with yourself and others.
- I send you a path of petals on which to tread as you navigate life.
- I send you glorious freedom to move your body and experience joy.
- I send you music to make your insides dance.
- I send you the lightest hint of lilac and a handful of petals.
- Sending you giant pails of peace to spill or splash in.
- I send you showers of confetti filled with sparkling, renewing energy to keep you fresh and succulent.
- I send you joy.
- I send you wide open spaces big enough for all your dreams to materialize.
- I send you healing love and energy.
- I send you calm as you step back into work from being off for a few weeks.
- I send you life rafts for navigating the waters of life.
- I send you revolving hours of joy for writing about what you want to write about.
- Sending you giggles.
- I send you gentle care and comfort, and I hold your heart with love in mine.