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Do you feel rattled?
You’re working feverishly to meet a deadline and suddenly receive some unexpected news that rattles you to your core. The pounding heart in your chest, sweaty hands, and shallow breathing leave you feeling rattled. Be careful where you step! The head of the pin you’re standing on barely has enough room for both feet, and you can feel it teetering beneath you.
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What makes your soul dance? Have you ever watched a movie that reached into the depths of your soul to a point of tears, and you let the tears flow without reservation? When our souls move and we feel; these are wonderfully deep and authentic emotions. What is it about connecting with our soul so deeply that it makes us spontaneously feel?
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Do you feel shame?
Emotions can be teachers for us to stay true to who we are or who we want to be. Think for a moment about the last time you felt shame. Where does that feeling come from? Did you think or believe that if you hid, your shame would disappear and no one would notice? Maybe you felt like you were flawed.
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Where’s Mom and Dad when I want them? And why can’t they give me what I’m looking for? When I was in the throes of trauma recovery, I had an image in my mind about the support I was looking for from my parents. (Note: I was a teenager.) It seemed when I opened doors for them to step through (on my terms), one of them invariably slammed the door smack dab in my face. Ouch!
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Do you feel troubled?
Have you ever felt restless for seemingly no reason at all? This could be a sign that you feel more troubled about something than you realize. Sneaky little feeling, troubled. This little feeling (or not so small feeling) can be full of little gifts for us if we can give ourselves a moment to explore more about it.
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Mood swings and trauma recovery are a real thing. Sometimes the world seems as right as rain. Then there are those times when our internal world struggles to make a smile come out. Kind, supportive thoughts seem elusive. This is a natural momentum. Emotions feel like they are swinging up and down. Have you ever experienced that?
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I’m feeling uncertain about this (or that). Is that a good thing or a bad thing? Whether we perceive it as positive or negative, uncertainty could be a generous gift. I’m exploring negative emotions right now, so I’m diving into this one from that perspective.
We are each unique in our approach to life and the subtle (or not-so-subtle) nuances of emotions that color our lives. You might feel comfortable with a higher volume of uncertainty in your life than others. I don’t mind some uncertainty, especially when trying out new things and seeing how they influence everything else. Raise the stakes though, and the uncertainty becomes overwhelming, with a generous helping of fear on the side. Case and point: writing a memoir and publishing it. (Eeegadz, did I just do that?) That was scary with a capital S. There’s some uncertainty!
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Finding Support When Parents Can’t Give What You Need
Where’s mom and dad? Have you ever noticed how deeply we long for understanding from the people who brought us into the world? Lately I have been reflecting on those tender teenage years when I craved specific support during my trauma recovery. Instead of receiving the open arms I imagined, doors often slammed shut on my terms.
The hurt cut sharply at first. Moreover, betrayal and misunderstanding swirled in my young heart like a storm. When I opened space for my parents to step through, disappointment met me repeatedly. I wanted to believe the ideal support waited just around the corner.
I simply hoped.
This pattern repeated more times than I wished to count. Furthermore, it left me questioning why the very people closest to me seemed unable to offer what I needed most.
Healing Parental Disappointment with Grace
Yet finding support when parents can’t give what you need opened an entirely new path for me. For instance, someone gently suggested that my parents might not be in a place to provide what I expected. Consequently, I began expanding my circle beyond family. Have you felt that same ache when family members fall short of your hopes?
- Healing when parents disappoint fosters emotional freedom and self-compassion while releasing unrealistic expectations in family dynamics.
- Finding support beyond family builds stronger resilience and healthier relationships through chosen connections and community.
- Grace after parental disappointment promotes acceptance and peace by honoring each person’s unique growth journey.
- Emotional healing from family wounds enhances well-being and deepens self-love by seeking nurturing from aligned supporters.
These realizations felt revolutionary and life-saving. So, where’s mom and dad?
However, shifting perspective required gentle courage. Therefore, I started looking outward with an open heart. Additionally, I discovered kind souls who could walk beside me exactly as I needed. Transitioning into this new understanding happened gradually yet powerfully. One conversation at a time, my inner storm began to calm.
Moreover, I learned that everyone travels their own path of growth. Sometimes family members simply cannot meet us where we stand. Other times their own wounds limit what they can offer. Either way, I found freedom in releasing the demand.
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Furthermore, this new approach allowed grace to flow into my existing family ties. When I stopped expecting one source to fulfill everything, acceptance bloomed naturally. Have you noticed how releasing rigid expectations creates space for love to breathe? I certainly have, and it transformed my connection with my parents.
Besides the immediate relief, deeper ripples emerged too. For example, I could now appreciate my family without resentment clouding the view. Likewise, I built meaningful bonds with mentors and friends who offered genuine support. Consequently, my world felt richer and more balanced.
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Additionally, sharing this insight with others multiplies its healing power. Whether whispered during a quiet talk or reflected upon in solitude, the message spreads hope. Transition words now flow through my thoughts just as acceptance carries me forward with lightness.
Ultimately, finding support when parents can’t give what you need invites profound freedom. Feel the relief as you open to new sources of care. Your heart, relationships, and spirit will respond with greater peace and quiet strength. Ask yourself, where’s mom and dad?
So breathe into that longing today. Look gently beyond old expectations. Moreover, notice how wonderful it feels to receive exactly what your soul has been seeking. After all, this healing belongs to you, one graceful step at a time.
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Family dynamics get interesting under any condition. When trauma happens, either within a family or to someone in the family, things can change how a family relates to itself. I’m sharing these thoughts from my perspective and the impact being raped had on my family. I can’t possibly talk about everything in the few hundred words that will make up this blog post, but here are some highlights.
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Let’s talk about relationship dynamics when it’s hard to trust. This applies to friends and family for sure, but I’m drawing this point more narrowly to spouse or partner relationships.
You find your ‘one.’ You tie the knot. In the beginning, it feels like you have every reason to trust that you’re going to be respected. You trust the other person to hold you dear in your most vulnerable moments. Then something happens and that ‘all-in’ trust comes into question. Maybe your definition of what it means to trust someone differs from the other person’s idea of trust. Whatever the cause and wherever you are in your trust-o-meter, trust between you and your ‘one true love’ changes and you question your choices.
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We’ve all seen people in a volatile state. Scary, I know! Truth is, we all feel it but sometimes don’t recognize it until after the fact. It appears when we experience rapid or unexpected change (like when the Japanese stock market dropped). Or, sometimes it comes on suddenly in an explosive reaction to something (case and point when you just lose it). I seem to experience it most profoundly as an explosive reaction. I rarely realize it until I see someone else’s shocked face or there’s an air of ‘give her some space’ in the immediate area.
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