Do you ever wake up feeling miserable? Maybe life happens, and you sink into a miserable abyss without realizing it. When miserable pays you a visit, are you aware? Do you notice and pay attention to what’s going on?
When I feel miserable, I often get a healthy dose of despair to accompany my experiences. Misery loves company, right? I’ve learned something about it, though. Misery can mean that something important is out of alignment. Perhaps a personal value or boundary is screaming for attention. Maybe it’s an emotion that wants us to pay attention to something we care about. Did you ever push something to the bottom of your list so many times it felt like a monster instead of something you can whip out in a short block of time?
Let me say this: Misery does not mean you’re broken. It means something wants your attention. Those who know me realize I have an active journal life. When misery stops in for a visit, journaling about things I long for, things I’m avoiding, or things that matter to me always helps. (Oh, I see now that I set my feelings aside, and they want to play, too.) It allows me to shift the negative connotation of misery into something enlightening. Sometimes I play opposites with it: misery/joy, misery/love, misery/peace, misery/comfort. You see, both are present, and sometimes at the same time. Being aware of the extremes helps me settle into the juicy middle.
I know it is far easier to say these words than to put them into action—when misery is present, instead of running from it, run into it. Do you know anyone on this earth that is always happy; literally, always happy? I don’t. We’re all bound to experience a smidgen of misery from time to time. Psst! It means you’re human! Yes, hello misery. Thank you for reminding me it’s okay to put boundaries around… for me to value my desires… for me to be grateful.
Explore more feelings in the Stayin’ in Touch – Negative Emotions book. You can play with them when or wherever you like.
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The time is now; it’s time to fly! You’ve grown, you’ve prepared, and now it’s time to take the leap. Nature has a way of showing us these things if we choose to pay attention from that perspective.
We have a small bird house in our yard, and each spring, the guest house fills with just the right little birds seeking a place to build their family. This year, we had some amazing little finches. They busily found the right materials to build a comfy place to do what birds do. They laid their eggs, and while mamma kept them warm, papa tirelessly tended to mom’s essential needs.
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What does neglect feel like?
Raise your hand if you enjoy feeling neglect. What? No hands? Now, raise your hand if you avoid feeling neglect. Ooh, I see a few hands now, mine included.
Neglect is a good disguise artist. It might look like people-pleasing, numbness, or even over-achievement. When I feel this emotion, I often feel unseen, which can lead to craving emotional nourishment. Sometimes it causes me to dim my light so that I can (in my mind) go unnoticed. Other times, it’s like an invisible roommate. You know, when someone is physically present but emotionally on vacation.
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In my earlier post about opposites, we explored that the energy of opposites, and knowing opposites, is where some of the juicy life we want occurs. I want to take that a step further and talk about the growth that happens between opposites as it applies to our emotions.
In the last post, I talked about how it’s important to know anger so that you can know joy, and vice versa. Now I’m jumping into the dramatic energy of the in-between: the energy between extreme opposites and what we get out of what’s in the middle. I have an author friend that calls that the messy middle (SARK), and I think she’s spot on. The in-between can feel messy, but it’s also where the juicy goodness is.
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Have you been offended?
When was the last time you felt offended? It is an emotion you probably feel more often than you realize. Think for a moment about the last time you felt offended. Did you feel threatened? Perhaps the feeling helped to spark a conversation, or maybe it opened a door for you to see something about yourself. Yes? No?
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Our thoughts and the things we do to improve our lives also make the world better. There’s something to the power of one person making a difference. Think about it. If we take one moment to get our self-universe centered, our energies are different; focused and drawing what we want in our lives. If 5 people do that, what do you suppose the impact of that would be universally, outside of ourselves? Now think about that same picture, but imagine thousands of people doing it; millions. How do you think our experience of the world would change?
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Are you paranoid about exploring what it means to feel paranoid? What is feeling paranoid all about, and what do you suppose this emotion is trying to tell us?
I understand sometimes paranoia can become chronically debilitating for some. When that happens, it’s always good to reach out for help when it disrupts your life and how you want to live. There are other times, though, paranoia creeps in and giving it some air-time can help to understand more about what’s going on. It’s those little fears that come knocking on our door and sometimes they like to take root and cause abundant chaos in our lives.
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It may seem like a worn out thought, living in the moment, but there’s something wise and profound about that idea. The hours I’ve spent living for a moment instead of in the moment are too numerous to count. I wonder how much I could have accomplished if I allowed myself to be in the moment instead of wishing for another one.
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What the heck does querulous mean? I know. It’s a new description of a feeling for my vocabulary, too! Querulous pertains to feeling dissatisfied or annoyed, which leads to chronic complaining. Have you ever been there before, or been around someone who is suffering from querulousness? I bet we all have!
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Let’s explore the power of opposites. Chaos and calm, noise and peace, anger and joy, hungry and full, sad and happy, …peace and opportunity. Sure, we all strive for happiness, joy, peace, wealth, and grace in our lives. We all want more of that, right? How do you know, though, that you want more joy if you’ve never experienced anger? Can you really know what it means to feel happy if you’ve never experienced sadness? If you never knew what it was like to feel hungry, how can you appreciate what it means to feel well-fed? What’s up with these opposites?
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Do you feel rattled?
You’re working feverishly to meet a deadline and suddenly receive some unexpected news that rattles you to your core. The pounding heart in your chest, sweaty hands, and shallow breathing leave you feeling rattled. Be careful where you step! The head of the pin you’re standing on barely has enough room for both feet, and you can feel it teetering beneath you.
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Life Gifts
- Sending you patience while your body heals.
- I send you clocks that indicate there is plenty of time.
- I send you calm as you step back into work from being off for a few weeks.
- I send you buckets of smiles to share with everyone you meet.
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- Sending you quiet mornings to savor nature and listen to the musings of your heart.
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- I send you a warm spot of cheer and buckets of love for you to use as you wish.
- Sending you joy.
- Sending you sparkly confetti in celebration of your accomplishments today.
- I send you revolving hours of joy for writing about what you want to write about.
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- Sending you blankets of love to help you feel safe.
- Sending you giant pails of peace to spill or splash in.
- I send you inspiration to put thoughts on paper.
- I send you chortles, giggles, and warm hugs.
- Sending you oodles of energy noodles.
- I send you courage and honor.
- Sending you a magical cool sheet to snuggle in and feel safe.
- I send you fresh, crisp apple bites of life to bite into everyday.
- I send you a path of petals on which to tread as you navigate life.
- Sending you magical lenses to sharpen your focus.
- Sending you calm to scatter around the chaos.
- Sending you rain to nourish the earth so that the earth can nourish you.
- I send you healing, detoxifying energy as your body benefits and heals from your weekend massage.
- I send you over-flowing cups of love to restore your heart and soul.
- I send you calm and gentle breezes wafting love and joy around you.
- I send you joy.
- I send you healing energy as you mend your heart and body.
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- Sending you bright colored paint for your life canvas.
- I send you the lightest hint of lilac and a handful of petals.
- I send you bright-colored flowers that fragrantly shower your surroundings with joy and delight.
- I send you delicious caring and big love.
- I send you the deep, rich colors of berries to paint your soul.
